The Real Reason ‘Marriage’ Was Invented.

  • Marriage defined,
  • how & why marriage was invented,
  • the argument against ‘gay’ marriage discussed in light of this,
  • the greater benefits of viewing all marriage energetically. 

For the last few days I have come across Gay Marriage discussions, the arguments for and against and I feel to share the reasons behind why the institution Marriage was brought into our societal structure to begin with, in Western – predominantly British European influenced – Society.  

As there was no understanding by those in positions of influence or rule in British society as it developed, of what  Being Human actually was, bodily acts such as sex had become viewed as distasteful by those in the middle and upper classes.

As more and more emphasis was on the mind, the development of society and the economy,  any distractions of bodily needs were controlled by language use and by etiquette (socially appropriate behaviors).

Clothing had developed to disguise even the body’s shape beneath, and feet and hands were kept covered, as much to hide the animalistic fingers and toes, as to protect against the cold.

There was much discussion and grave concern amongst those in power of what to do about the decline in reproduction – of the very people they wanted to have children.  Sex was still just as popular among the lower class.

The concept Marriage was invented to encourage procreation, as the ‘solution- seeking’ creativity.  To bring together the bodily act, with the sanctity of a church, so that people who knew nothing of themselves as sexual beings, would feel it was an honourable, godly, and patriotic thing to do.

“For God and Country to lay down and think of England”. To “‘do the dirty deed” It was your service and duty to your country, and it became an acceptable thing to do, was incorporated successfully into society, and Married people soon were given different considerations, standards of dress, etiquette and so on.

The bodily act had become considered so distasteful and misunderstood, that it was considered necessary to repopularise its necessity.  ‘Within The Sanctity of Marriage’ was the chosen creation for this.

A man – the father – gave his daughter to another man – she wore white,  as lacy as wanted, for purity, and a ceremony held in a church.  It was performed by a representative of God, as high as you own station in life ‘deserved’ be it a minister or a bishop.  How could anyone feel ‘dirty’ after that?   Everyone knew they would be having sex, it was out in the open, deemed acceptable and no need for gossip.   Sexual activity had successfully become part of an honourable betrothal.

So marriage was invented because the act of sex, of joining, of  divine Union had become so unpopular and misunderstood, and knowledge of anyone engaging in it, was used to degrade them and could lead to loss of station/ respect.   And yes, it was invented to encourage sexual relations between and Man and a Woman.

Gay/Homosexual people really just want it to acknowledged by their society, that they contribute to, and who is meant to represent them, respectful acknowledgement that they are now joined together, and are energetically in Union.   That they are now a couple.

Marriage for a Man and a Woman, would also be better served and more accurate, if it also was considered a Union of energy.  These two are now sustaining one another energetically, contributing to the lives of each other energetically, forsaking all others..

As marriage was invented to encourage sexual activity for child-bearing, it does need to be redefined if we are to expect Gay marriage to be accepted everywhere.  Many people who completely accept that some of us are gay/homosexual do not want to, or feel it appropriate, to need to be called into question to debate another’s right to engage in whatever sexual activity.  This is exactly what is required, however, due to the historical relevance of the origins of Marriage.

Energetic realization of Marriage would also make it easier to transition to a healthier attitude with regard to sexual activity, as discussion opened and receptivity increased.  Marriages would be more successful – be more easily successful, if understood in terms of energy.

For me Marriage is a commitment between two that they are now wanting to share their energy, for the better of each other.  Sustaining one another.  If one is weaker, both are weakened, and to strengthen your other, strengthens you.

Energetic realization, is the solution.  Energetic realization is the healing way to look at Marriage, regardless of who enters into it, Man & Man, Man & Woman, Woman & Woman.   Homosexuality has biologically causes, and while there are some people who are just living a homosexual life because it is easier for them, with the knowledge that they have, I predict we will have an increase in the numbers of us who are homosexual.

The growing baby gets all the necessary hormones to become a man, from within the mother,  and while we are in a health crisis, sometimes all the available nutrients for a baby, will not be available at their optimum levels for all.

What unites all Human Beings is our need and want to love, and to be loved.  Marriage is the way for society to regard two Human Beings, who are joined together energetically for the benefit of each other….and the society! : )

An energetic realization of being human,  can only bring solutions to every aspect of life shared. : )

Genital Circumcision – Shedding light. Why? How? And Now?

Excuse the word ‘shed’ it just came from the pen..er keyboard!;)  I feel it appropriate to discuss this further in light of the recent debate in San Francisco, and to share what I consider on it. 

I always wanted to know how such a practise of self harm came about and how did it become to be so popular, and this is what I found.

 Firstly,  As Salamu Alaikum to all my Muslim brothers.  It is with the highest respect and love that I write on this topic.  I write as a woman, and therefore  as a lover of Man, and I bring all of my insights to it that I have available to me, from my form Woman. 

Of course this practise is much more widespread than Muslim men only but I do focus on the origin, based upon my earliest findings, before I discuss other misunderstood reasons. 

I share this from a place of divine light, of ‘Universal Spirituality’, that I consider ascends current practises of faith, and as a Being of the divine light, the  root/origin of all Faiths and all constructed religious practises/activities/worships here on Earth.

I write to shed light on the root cause behind the habit of circumcision, and to explain how I do not feel a law to make it ‘banned’ is adequate, suitable or respectful.

This is about a sensitive as it gets, with an issue for a Man.

As I am a woman,  a lover of man, and  I do not have a penis/lingam,  I feel it puts me in a good position to be completely unbiased and objective.

Just as a man can claim to have had much more intimate involvement than a woman on the subject of women’s breasts,;) as a woman I have naturally had much more intimate involvement with body parts of men, than other men. 

I assisted a friend who was doing her Masters on this topic here in Australia, with the collection of data, so I feel able to discuss my findings, my knowledge of her results of her studies, and all my discoveries along the way.

Definitions used for this are ‘intact’ for uncut/uncircumcised, and ‘cut’ men sometimes for circumcised.

HISTORY:   The topics of Human sexuality and religious beliefs are very much intertwined as one demonstrates our understanding and comfort of ourselves, and the other how we act out our beliefs.

The earliest texts I could find gave reference to collecting foreskins, and impregnating women, by (soldiers of) kings of other lands.  This is how invasions of the day were carried out.

It was common place, when invading other lands, to bring back evidence of killings.  Most of us may be familiar – from  the U.S  ‘WildWest’  movies, of the act of ‘scalping’ by Native American Indians.  I am not suggesting for a minute that these movies are true accounts of events, but more to remind you of a system of collection of part of a human body, as evidence of enemy slain.

If you had to collect a human body part, what is the smallest most convenient part of a slain man to choose?  An ear?  Head scalp? Or foreskin?  Right, foreskin!   Far cleverer to collect these.  In Hungarian language the word for foreskin is ‘skalp’, pronounced shh-calp.

Many more of these you can fit in your bag, more conveniently, less bloody, yet they still completely act as evidence that they were once part of a whole man.  It really is the ideal part of a male enemy to collect, when taking finger prints is out of the question, and so more sensible all round.  I have found this part of the world to be very smart, and this is clever indeed.

What these invading men would also do – or perhaps the leader of, is to impregnate as many women as possible during these invasions.  Again, what a clever bit of thinking when you are only focussed on taking over lands.  Make the next kin your own!  Of course it is not the choice of a developed conscience, but we are talking historically and of quite ancient times that were much different to now.

I  find this is also one of the root causes of women being covered over, and perceivably repressed and oppressed, but is more a case of men not trusting or respecting one another, than of only disrespecting their women.  It is also why the practise of completely, or partly, sewing up the genitalia of woman began, and still continues.

If you grow up with reference books that speak of the history of impregnating women, ‘solution seeking creativity’ can see the invention of many deterrents such as covering your women, keeping set schedules for their whereabouts and contacts, keeping them out of view of other men, sometimes physically altering them to make a man unable to impregnate one of he tried.

These are simply different interpretations of the words, and different behaviours chosen as necessary to carry them out, by the humans that read them.  This is precisely the same reasoning as many different variations to be found in Christianity now – many ‘offshoots’, so to speak as interpretations of the bible.

I can easily imagine smart, proud men using their human ‘solution seeking creativity’ and deciding they would rather remove their foreskin themselves than give another tribesman the glory. 

I can easily imagine the eventuality of removing them on new-born bubs as it became a standard practise, as much kinder, easier and more straight forward to do it then, as it had become part of the communities practise by this time. 

VIBRATIONAL CONSEQUENCE:  That it continues to this day, is a wonderful example of us continuing to react from an energetic  place of fear – though ‘fear’ as such, may not be felt anymore at all. 

It vibrationally is still fear though – or the absence of love to be exact,  so therefore does the same thing universally as from direct fear.  We know now from widespread Law Of Attraction familiarity, that this is not the way to a place of peace, joy and love.

Holding the intent of love and trust in fellow-man, is not an obvious thing to do at all, when your penis is mutilated and your ability to receive the pleasure that is your’s diminished since soon after your entry into the physical realm/Earth.  

While books can bring much knowledge and wisdom, they are also exactly what holds us in the past. 

Many books were brought out to assist in the governing of people, chosen at the time by leaders of their lands, and their advisers, if any.

Books were made available without forethought of consequence, some mass-produced and paid for by a ‘crown’ or ‘leader’, for ease of ‘ruling’ at that time. 

A way of rule that was decided as the best for the system of society operating at the time, of that particular city/area/country.

DEBATE & LAW RESPONSE:   

Unlike what has been suggested in San Francisco, approaching the subject and answering it historically, and with reassurance is what is required I find.  Otherwise it is only, and exactly, another man in a position of authority and of a ruling other than the man’s own, having a say in this man’s family.   That is precisely the origin of the issue.

The issue as I see it, I repeat, is of trust of other men.  If a man does not demonstrate an understanding of the origin of circumcision, it’s meaning for those who practise it, and why it continues to this day, it is only a reinforcement of the issue of mistrust, for this man by way of a Law, to order it forbidden

Another man in assumed authority, will be determining a boy child’s appearance, and of his not following his father’s honoured practise of men in his family line.   For another man to determine this may be felt to be disrespectful to the point of being humiliating, to a healthy sense of pride.

A law to stop this practise by force, will not do as good as an understanding of the need to hold the intent of love and trust to create ones reality, and explaining it. 

Better it is part of a discussion explaining why it is not  agood idea anymore to be living a path of fear and mistrust, with everything that the Law of Attraction can now demonstrate.  Explaining that there is absolutely no reason to fear the original reasons for the beginning of  circumcision, and a respectful understanding given to the inner processing required by a people going through transformation.  A phasing out period explained as beneficial and incentives offered to those parents who allow their boys to remain intact.

SEXUAL SENSITIVITY:

Not knowing the pleasure that it removes, men who have been circumcised can have no knowledge of what they are missing.

A study into circumcision was carried out in Brisbane Australia by Gillian Bensley as part of her Masters thesis.  Gillian asked all the sexually active women she knew to assist her in the collection of data, over a given period, asking willing ‘intact’ and ‘cut’ sexual partners, questions on sensitivity. 

I was more than happy to assist, as I have always considered sexual behaviour as demonstrative of our acceptance and knowledge of ourselves, historically and traditionally, and an enormous determiner of our state of mind/health/attitude through the ages. Studying human sexuality has necessarily been an enormous part of my research into ourselves.

A simple questionnaire was structured for the men, asking for responses to which named parts of themselves, were the most sensitive, on a relative scale.

For those men who had a foreskin, the foreskin – or the inner lips/mouth of the foreskin more specifically – were the most sensitive part, without deviation from this.

Intact men named their foreskin mouth as the most sensitive, then the foreskin itself, then the head/glans of the penis, thirdly.

Circumcised men named the glans/penis head the most sensitive, most often, but some had no area of greater sensitivity at all, naming the shaft/body of the penis the most sensitive.  This is easily the result of the penis being knocked around inside trousers etc without any protective coverage.

Additionally, having a foreskin, enabled what I am calling here a ‘secondary stimulus’ as the penis/lingam was massaged doubly by the action of the foreskin itself, as it moved within the vaginal channel of the  woman, heightening the pleasure a man experienced in intercourse .

 The men questioned – quite sadly in some cases I found – had only ever known, what they had known.  They had only ever experienced their sexual sensitivity through an altered/ mutilated penis.  The part of the potential greatest sensitivity for them, had been removed them, due to a fear centuries old. 

Some men had penises that were bent out of shape from being cut awkwardly, that were left or right directional when erect.  Others had scar tissue causing multicolouration or a candy-stripe pole look to the shaft, and one man’s penis had a red raw colour to it, from the scar tissue being pulled so tight. 

Some had no sensory variation, more like when a man wears a condom, with the effect of a reduction in sensitivity to locations and an overall evening out of sensation.   Circumcised men are also less likely than intact men, to want to wear a condom due to the desensitizing effect they already experience.  This raises the futher issue of increased transfer of venereal diseases and other sexually transmitted complications, from circumcision, rather than as with an intact man who may feel no reluctance to use a condom.

HERE my brothers, is where we are meant to enjoy our bodies with ALL of our senses we have available to us.  We are meant to be able to receive the further rewards that come through them, for a life well live. 

Without our full sensibility, we cannot receive the rewards that GOD, Allah, The Divine Source is giving us, for our pleasure.

Spiritual practises reward us through our senses, and do not ever seek to limit them, that is purely a human doing.  Your GOD only wants your pleasure.

HYGIENE ARGUMENT:  Certainly there has been a direct cause between ill health and poor hygiene, especially throughout British history.  Knowledge is filtering through the language groups and spreading through the countries and I feel greater awareness of the importance of being clean is much more common place than in the earlier centuries. 

Excuses of hygiene used,  for circumcision continuing, are simply that, excuses, and ignorance is being replaced with knowledge of adequate self-care.  We are Human Beings after all, and I really think we can learn to wash ourselves properly, though certainly reasons of ‘historical ‘inadequate self care’, need be acknowledged so they can be rectified.  They are no reason to cut a piece of your body off in the 21st century!;) 

Human beings are more than capable of adequate self-care.  If an Orang Utan can do something, a human being can do better, and actually contains the potential to do better…if they only knew! 

Learning to wash is the solution, not chopping a piece of you off.   Sexual health clinics have shared of the need to tell young men to “go and wash that thing, then I’ll take a look at it;)”  telling of very unclean penises, offensive smells, serious inflammation and of foreskins stuck down with smegma (penile mucous).

Women get a similar mucous build-up under the skin of the clitoral glans or head ‘clitoral hood’ and it simply requires a moving of the skin in the washing/bathing practice.  

Historically some humans have been in the dark about their own bodies, for reasons of ignorance and insecurity of the time, depending on the figure-head/system in rule. 

This was particularly so in Britain, and  I completely relate to feeling an ignorance about a body you are in!  My mother only ever referred to that part of my body in the vaguest terms possible and then only once, with a stern cold and uncomfortable:  “have you washed in-between your legs?”!!!!    That  part of my body was not even given a name by her!  Some healing that took me.;)

IN CONCLUSION:

I find that a Law to stop the practise of circumcision, will most likely continue the practise in possibly less comfortable and respectful places, as it simply is not an attractive idea when put this way. 

Stopping it by force will not do as good as an understanding of the need to hold the intent of love and trust to create our reality, so we can foresee a likely end result.  Explaining it and discussing it, is what is needed.

MY SOLUTION: 

1.Humans are capable of keeping themselves clean. Teaching our boys about their bodies, and of self-care/body caretake habits.  More needed in cold countries than hot ones as creativity moved in different ways, but more on this in another writing.

 2. Continuing the vibration of love and joy not of fear.  Intent has a huge meaning universally, and it is a universal truth, that continuing to remove a part of your body because of an outdated fear, continues the vibration of those fears (absence of love) into present day.  There is only love, or the absence of it.

3. Being a Human adult with an adult attitude toward your own sexuality.  Feeling comfortable with your own body parts, understanding what they are for, and how to use them to give yourself access to all your (god given) pleasures.  Learning to relate sexually as best you can for the purpose of satisfying (to estactic;) sexual union with a woman.(god;governance o’er dimensions)

Language is all it takes, and we as humans specialize in it.   It was at one time our highest evolution, and now our developed consciousness is, so let’s put it all together, for the benefit of ourselves and all life!       : )

What Makes Some Humans Smarter Than Others?

I find the more complex a ‘home’ language, the more intelligent the people. It is our language ability that distinguishes us as human beings, and then our opposable thumb, giving us the creative ability with our hands to actualize /bring into reality, what we think of.

It is language ability that makes some humans more intelligent than others, and the more languages we know the smarter we get. The more words we know, the larger capacity that we contain within.

As it is our very intent at thought, that creates the neuron synaptic pathways within our brain, the more we learn, the larger a framework – or word map – or’ shelving unit’ for storage;) – we create inside ourselves.

Our vocabulary becomes the roots of our created reality tree. : ) The more languages we know, we effectively multiply our total neuron capacity. A language is so much more than words you see…

A language is also the knowing of what to say and when, customs, behaviors, culture, and so on. Within the ‘shelving unit’ or ‘files’ inside our consciousness, we need make room, for the word of all those things, in another language.

I was very injured on time, which included a head injury resulting in a loss of consciousness. The neuro-test given me, by a specialist unknown to me, as the one that gave them the best idea of my pre-injury intellect, was one on pronunciation of words.

I was told it did not matter whether I knew the word – or not – just how I chose to pronounce it. From this, I also gathered that language ability is the most accurate determiner of intellect used today scientifically. They were most likely able to determine how wide my word source was, from this test.

In Australia last year after school results were known, it was documented how much better ‘immigrant’ – or children with English as a second language – performed in the results. It was the subject of a tv show also.

It was mistakenly believed that it was due to foreign children being better students, or having greater work ethics instilled in them, as to why they were smarter.

Certainly these qualities assist, but they are simply smarter anyway because they know more words, their neuron capacity fills a greater space, than their ‘English-derivitive’, (no second language), fellow students.

Within the same language, just say two people had the same vocabulary also, it becomes the greater creativity and other learnings undertaken, that then increase brain use and therefore capacity, leading to one being smarter than the other.

Before I studied ‘us’ / humans , 😉 I studied every animal I came across. I noticed my pets, from mice to dogs, all became smarter the more I trained them.

When I meet someone I like to know their blood lines (heritage) on both side and their ‘home’ language. I find this the most helpful information to know more of someone, and it has proven reliable and consistent. I am able to determine how smart/clever they are most likely able to be from their language/no. of languages.

I have known, dated or befriended, all ‘races’ – though I prefer the word ‘breeds’ – of humans. It is their vocabulary and language quantity that makes them smarter than the rest.;)

The English language has always been short of words, in comparison with others and has needed to add to its stock of words as it went along through history.

It needed to adopt words from other languages, as those words simply did not exist, within its own language. This made the people speaking it, therefore, intellectually, not as capable as those whose languages had a greater – or more extended – vocabulary.

English is one of the more simplistic of all the languages, and why as a second language it becomes easy, as it is so much easier than a ‘home’ language. It also does not fit in well with the other languages, and I go into more detail in other writings.

My mother’s vocabulary was severely limited. She operated in a very concrete fashion, fixated on what was in front of her. She had trouble understanding much that was not obvious to her way of thinking. She had enormous difficulty with abstract thought, and, or perhaps because, she was so regimented.

Historically, language had been strictly controlled in English life. Hard for other language groups to fathom – in English language society – the topics of sex, religion and politics, were not considered appropriate for social conversing: “There are three things you never talk about…” my mother told me.

There were strict placements and ‘ classes’ given to people according to status and socioeconomic group with a “Who are you to say that?” keeping people in their place and ‘their tongues in their head’. Another way of keeping spoken language to a minimum. Insecurities in the upper classes also benefitted from this as, at the same time, it was considered an embarrassment to not have anything to say on a subject!

Also, “social grooming & etiquette” had men and women, or ‘gentlemen and ladies’ given advice of topics of conversation to learn, for society. For example, a young woman undertaking ‘social grooming advancement’, may learn a conversation topic such as flower arranging.

Thanks to the above language control measures, speaking had all but been disconnected from any idea of creating a reality for a human existence…;)

My mother’s social life was practically non-existent, had always been limited, and her life very structured and rigid. Her own creativity was severely and chronically stifled.

By contrast my father would take me as a baby to meet with his Hungarian friend. Conversation would roll, and was like a lullaby to me, and when he wasn’t speaking his home language or singing, he was whistling while he worked.;)

My mother struggled with her vocabulary. Her conversation – and that is using the term generously;) – was limited to retelling of events in a listed way, retelling of a simple ‘story’, criticizing, and using learned abusive words. Some of these, most likely she had said to her as a child, and others were clearly military words and orders.

She absolutely was not able to use language to create her reality as she went along in a day, instead using a learned script, that she needed to fit to suit a circumstance. This is very common of the habit of the English language in England even today.

Later in adulthood she learned to use the word ‘apparently’ and I noticed that it gave her more to do with a sentence.;)

Sure we are a breed, and we contain the biochemistry from our physical parents, and some may be more generous in ‘the matter’ than others, but we can use what we have and make it more so.

I was told a joke in Edinburgh one year when I was there for the Edinburgh Festival:

What do you call someone who knows many languages? Multilingual.

What do you call someone who knows a couple of languages?

What do you call someone who only knows one language? English!

I added immediately, due to my familiarity with the shortening/making casual, habit of my birthplace…:

What do you call someone who knows less than one language? Australian!;)

LOVE your home language, and love your language ability!

If you need to learn English, do so as another language, you are human after all, so no need to make less of yourself when you can be more! : )